‘Competitive Mum’ – Prose For Thought Link

Proseimage.largeLast week saw the most successful ‘Prose for Thought’ so far, so a massive thank you to all the lovely people who linked up – appropriately for World Poetry Day. It makes my heart happy to see there is still poetry in the world!

This week my poetry is used for the usual reason. To get something off my chest. And this is something that affects me more than people realise. The school playground. I can’t stand it. It’s like being back at school and I have now started to wait in the car until the last possible moment to go in and drop Grace off and pick up her up.

Grace goes to school near Ascot and I’m afraid that this post will now mean that I will be even less popular in the school playground than I feel already (I am aware that some of the Mums read my blog!). There are some Mums who I class as ‘the ladies who lunch’ who stand around in groups gossiping about the school, other Mums, the latest village gossip, who’s doing what. I really don’t want to get involved in all that!

I think this poem says it all really.


Competitive Mum

In the playground, make-up plastered

Talking humanely they haven’t mastered

A chattering clique, they stand in groups

To join them you must jump through hoops

Oh, and another thing, act like you’re loaded

I’m sorry, I just won’t be goaded

What?! You act like you’re back at school

I’m telling you that I am nobody’s fool

Because when all is said and done

I’m not cut out to be Competitive Mum


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  2. June 23, 2013 / 1:11 pm

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  3. March 30, 2013 / 5:04 pm

    Terrific poem – sadly often true in many areas of life, although I’m glad that it’s not true of every playground. Do you think that this kind of behaviour (generally) could be a mask for a feeling of insecurity in other ways, perhaps relating to, say, intellectual or other ability, or some other complex? (I’m not suggesting that this is always so.)
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    • Victoria
      March 31, 2013 / 9:43 pm

      Thanks Phil. I think that you could be right. My sister made a valid point that maybe being back in the school playground brings feelings of being back at school to most of the parents! Thanks for your comment x

  4. March 29, 2013 / 8:31 pm

    I sometimes think that the Mums are more childish than the children!

  5. March 28, 2013 / 7:26 pm

    Great poem! I think that you get these sorts of people in all sort of places. I can’t be doing with them!

  6. Mrs Teepot
    March 28, 2013 / 4:05 pm

    It’s sad that this happens, you’d think mother’s would all come together but it seems to divide women so much.
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  7. March 28, 2013 / 1:29 pm

    There have been times in the 8 years I’ve stood at the school gates when I have felt a little like this – out of the loop and not in the “in” crowd but I imagine that there have been other times when people thought I was part of it! I have found my own friends and am happy to talk to anyone, at a superficial, playground level. One of the ways I handled my initial ‘unrest’ was to join the PTA I found friends and surprisingly, a very nice bunch of people. I think that sometimes, others assume that they are a clique, so not true at our school. Maybe try pushing through it? Although I know all schools aren’t the same x

  8. March 28, 2013 / 1:19 pm

    Fab poem, but I am happy to say I can’t relate, our playground is great, the mum’s (and dad’s) lovely and even though I’m old enough to be mum to a lot of them they are never ignorant or cliquey. I’ve been going to the same playground for 20 years now!!!
    Off to read some more poems now and to see if I have one to link up 🙂
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  9. Elaine Croft
    March 28, 2013 / 12:10 pm

    Fantastic poem! I can totally relate to it! I also sit in the car until the very last minute 🙁 I have total school gate anxiety. I’m part of the school PTA but the gossiping and cliques on the gates are horrible!

  10. March 28, 2013 / 11:07 am

    Hi Victoria
    Reading your poem has been such a source of strength for me this morning. I have had some unpleasant times recently at the school gates with cliques like these and today I had to go to my son’s assembly. I ended up sat in front of one of the mums who no matter how often I smile and say hello to simply ignores me, and – get this – I have seen WHISPERING BEHIND HER HAND (!) to other mums and POINTING in my direction!! So very childish. But you know what, I just thought about this poem when yet again she ignored me this morning, and I just smiled a huge smile! So thank you so so much. Good on you for being so open as it does go one at every school I’m sure.
    I’m going to link up a poem for the first time today and I feel very shy about it – eek. I love reading other’s posts. Thank you for hosting xx

    • Victoria
      March 28, 2013 / 11:34 am

      Hi lovely lady, I am so pleased that my poem has been a source of strength for you today. It just shows that bullying of this kind DOES go on and it is so unfair. I too had to go to an assembly for my daughter yesterday and was dreading it if I’m honest. I think poetry can be so helpful – and easily remembered in times of need. And thank you for you well-needed words of support. It feels a bit silly I guess, I was worried about putting it up, but I need to be able to express my feelings in my space! I’m off to read and share your poem now 🙂 xx

  11. March 28, 2013 / 10:24 am

    …Oh, and I’ve linked to #Prose4T on Twitter 🙂

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  12. March 28, 2013 / 9:50 am

    Urgh, I’m so not looking forward to this part of motherhood!
    Just wanted to say that I found your blog today through Helen Braid. Prose for thought is such a good idea!
    I’ve entered a poem above and tried to include your badge in my post but it didn’t work (it’s very likely I’m just being a bit dim!) so instead I’ve attached it to the side bar of my blog.
    I ‘m really looking forward to reading more!
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  13. Kristinep2@gmail.com
    March 28, 2013 / 8:52 am

    Wow, if this isn’t acting like being back at school I don’t know what is. I’m sure there are lots of people that can relate to this poem however I’m not sure posting a poem of this nature is necessary. I hope the mums you are referring to don’t read it; if it was about me I would find it upsetting. It’s one thing making sure the kids get along, it seems the mums could do with some help also. I’m not attacking you in any way just giving an honest opinion. x

    • Victoria
      March 28, 2013 / 9:48 am

      Hi Kristine, I had a feeling that at least one of the Mums would comment. I think if people can relate to the poem, then it is necessary to post it. I am as honest as I can be with my feelings on my blog and feel that these poems can help other people too. Apologies if I have upset anyone. I, myself, find the circumstances upsetting and always feel that the best way to get it off my chest is to write poetry, it’s cathartic for me. Thank you for saying you weren’t attacking me – although I did feel the first line of your comment was kind of one! 😉 x

      • Kristinep2@gmail.com
        March 28, 2013 / 11:21 am

        I just think it is childish in itself. My personal preference would be to approach someone if they upset me, not write an unplesant poem. I understand you are upset but I don’t see how this will help the situation.

        • Victoria
          March 28, 2013 / 11:30 am

          I am in no way upset. This blog is my space to express my feelings and this is my personal preference. I haven’t named anyone and I am sorry if you are taking it as directed at you because it isn’t! As you have already said, we are all entitled to our opinions Kristine. People can either read or not – its up to them! I seemed to have helped other people who have commented today especially one particular lady who is upset by something like this in her own school.

          • Kristinep2@gmail.com
            March 28, 2013 / 12:39 pm

            I know it’s not directed at me and obviously it is helping people here. As I stated originally I’m just giving my opinion.

  14. March 28, 2013 / 8:25 am

    Blurgh, sounds horrid. But good poem! 🙂 I am actually worried that around here the playground atmosphere will be one of reverse snobbery – I live on a council estate – so when the time comes I’ll do my best to keep the fact that I own a piano and more than one book quiet..
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    • Victoria
      March 28, 2013 / 9:49 am

      It’s so difficult isn’t it!! Why can’t we all just be the same instead of having different classes of people?! x

      • March 28, 2013 / 7:41 pm

        It’s all a bit silly really: people are so worried about others looking down on them that they preventively look down on everyone else. *sigh*
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  15. March 28, 2013 / 7:57 am

    Oh yes I’m hearing you… I think every school gate in the country has those little cliques. Avoid, avoid, avoid!!! Fab poem as always xx

    • Victoria
      March 28, 2013 / 9:50 am

      Thanks Helen, so glad you can relate 🙂 xx

    • Victoria
      March 28, 2013 / 9:50 am

      It really helps to know I am not the only one!! 🙂 x

      • March 28, 2013 / 3:26 pm

        Your not alone by any stretch. The sad thing is that these people who can cause these feelings of upset can sometimes be totally oblivious. Self obsession is not a pretty trait! (just my opinion)
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