Prose for Thought – Don’t Wipe Your Feet On Me, I’m Not A Doormat.

Prose for Thought – Don’t Wipe Your Feet On Me, I’m Not A Doormat.

Welcome everyone to this week’s ‘ranty’ Prose for Thought. There is a poem at the bottom so PLEASE don’t go…if you want to skip past my rant then please do!

The last week has really been tough. To the point where I want to tell the whole world where to go (and it isn’t to paradise, believe me!). Why is it,because I am self-employed, do people think they don’t have to pay me? And why do so many people want something for nothing? And why, oh why, do I make what I fully believe to be a sensible decision and then go and get shat on from a great height.

Firstly, companies, where do you get off not paying people or being rude or expecting something for nothing? Don’t get me wrong, I am VERY lucky, a majority of the companies I deal with are wonderful people. They are a joy to work with, understanding and respectful that we are all achieving something together. But then there are people like this….

How rude and unprofessional can you get?!

This week I chased a company for payment. On all of the invoices I send I state that payment is due within 30 days from the date of the invoice and, after that time then interest shall be charged at £10 per week. I sent an invoice out dated 30th April 2014. On 7th May I received a response. The company in question accepted these terms by stating, and I quote:

‘Thank you for sending across your invoice #XXXX. It has been received and approved. All April invoices will fall due at the end of May.’

Then, because I hadn’t received payment at the end of May, I sent another email yesterday with a new invoice listing the overdue payment charge. This is what I received back:

‘I’m afraid we don’t pay overdue charge. We will start processing payments on Friday. You should expect to receive your payment that day.’

Obviously, I wasn’t accepting that so I wrote:

‘When you accepted the invoice from me, then you accepted the overdue charges especially when you said in your email dated 7th May that my invoice had been ‘received and approved. In the same email, you stated that all invoices from April would fall due at the end of May. From my last check of today’s date we are now well past the end of May. My overdue charge stands and I would like to receive payment please.’

The response?

‘Thank you for your feedback. I understand your point. As far as I know we don’t pay overdue fees. However, I will speak to my superior about it and will get back to you on this regarding.’

I know my rights, so I replied with the following:

‘When you speak to your superior it may be worth mentioning to them that I have studied Breach of Contract Law, represented myself in court and won. The very thing that won me the case is the fact that the solicitors in question (in this case, Manches, the firm who represented Guy Ritchie in his divorce against Madonna) accepted terms by saying that they agreed to something.’

I am waiting with interest to see what happens next!

Finally, I have experienced something this week which has infuriated me. To the point where I feel like a complete and utter mug. My new Driving School Franchise.

Back in March I made the decision to return to teaching after the Easter holidays. It wasn’t a decision I took lightly as I know it is a lot of work and driving tuition can be a really tough job but I need the money and I know it is something that I am good at.

I took over two weeks comparing companies financially to see how they would benefit me and what they offered me in return for my money and I then I made my decision. One, this week, I came to regret.

The Driving School had been sold to a new owner. He has discovered that what he has bought is a complete and utter mess. Many instructors have had no work for months, nothing has been done and the company was taking people’s money hand over fist and doing nothing in return. This has left me with a car sitting on my drive costing me money. Thankfully I had the forethought to cancel the payments to my franchise last month when I thought something fishy was going on!

I have now offered to help the new owner out of this mess by working on the social media side. He had to visit his solicitor on Monday to take out an injunction against the former owner who is still trying to sabotage the business!

So, with all of this in mind, and for anyone else who is having a shit time with a bad company, this poem is for you!

Don’t Wipe Your Feet On Me, I’m Not A Doormat 

Don’t wipe your feet on me
I’m not a doormat
You’ve used and abused
And I’m not down with that

Taken too much from you
And I can’t stand no more
If you can’t treat me right
Then I’ll show you the door

Just because I work
Doesn’t mean you don’t pay me
I’ll chase for what you owe
And, if necessary, daily

And why is it
That you have to be rude
I have bills to pay
And I need to buy food

As a person, mostly
I’m a happy soul
But if you wind me up
Then just watch me go!

You can carry on
With your stupid protest
But all you’re really doing
Is becoming a pest

You can’t give your word
Then turn around and break it
I don’t care who you are
No, don’t try and fake it

Stop, please, really
Now you’re digging a hole
And believe me when I say
You have nowhere to go

You are one giant
Massive, pain in the arse
All of this is turning into
One really stupid farce

So, give it up now
Because you really won’t win
You are in the wrong here
Wipe off that stupid grin

No, really, I mean it
I’m not taking your crap
So don’t wipe your feet on me
I’m not a doormat

Victoria Welton 4th June 2014.

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  1. September 14, 2015 / 11:49 am

    Oh how rude and annoying. I hate these companies that really really take advantage and don’t care about ever paying on time. Sometimes I’ve been shocked that its some of the very big ones, really terrible.

  2. September 12, 2015 / 9:07 am

    Well done for standing up for yourself. I despise when people think they can walk all over you. I hope things get better xx
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  3. Candace
    September 11, 2015 / 4:41 pm

    Wow, what a week. Really hope the driving school thing works out but glad you do have done social media work in the meantime.

  4. N
    June 7, 2014 / 7:52 pm

    Oh no, it’s horrible people treat you like that! I had similar situation. Someone approached me for consultancy advise in February which I could do via sole trader thing, but he requested me to set-up a VAT registered ltd as from April. We ‘agreed’ on a contract with 3 months notice and an hourly rate, with a limited at 200 hours / month. I set up the ltd, worked April and early May the contract is finally finalised by his lawyer: stating a flat fee + unlimited hours (the fee was equivalent of 160 hours) . Obviously I could not accept as it can not cover my childcare costs… after conversations, e-mails and more: he says end of May: Either you sign the contract as we can not release any payments without a contract! No sufficient funds to keep the childcare for June, so had to cancel that… meanwhile his money came through (me forfeiting 50 hours of work to keep ‘peace’). But still no contract for coming months, but last week came begging for information as they don’t know what they are doing… Somehow they are expecting me to do tradeshows for ten days abroad end June/July but as I have no contract I am can’t preschedule childcare! People are so ignorant and idiots sometimes! This is now 3rd week in, that I am not working (unless his team is in trouble) and I don’t know which direction it is going and third week I am not payed!

  5. Potty Mouthed Mummy
    June 7, 2014 / 7:25 am

    Sorry you had to deal with annoying people like this. Well done for sticking to your guns!! Loved the rants poem x
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  6. Christine
    June 6, 2014 / 5:11 pm

    Sorry such a bummer of a week Victoria. Have another look at all of the gorgeous heartfelt comments you have received. I hope that has brightened your day…it may not pay the bills, but WOW have you had such an incredible impact on the blogging community. Stay bright and strong and smile like your blog badge! x
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  7. June 6, 2014 / 2:35 pm

    Sorry to hear you’ve had such a terrible week Victoria.

    I’m self-employed too and it has its – ahem – challenging moments.

    Hope you feel better after writing your poem – and that next week brings you the better experiences you deserve.


    Clare (Mrs Average) xxx
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  8. June 6, 2014 / 12:49 pm

    Oh vicky good rant. It sucks to have to chase people for money and you shouldn’t have to and nor should they think your work is free. You work hard and what a pain in the ass! Loved your poem. Go get them tiger I say!!! Thanks for hosting and can’t wait to meet you so very soon.
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  9. June 6, 2014 / 12:32 pm

    Love this! Sorry you’ve been treated badly, but fair play to you for standing up for yourself and sticking to your guns. It’s too easier for bigger companies to take advantage of small businesses. Well done!
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  10. June 6, 2014 / 8:07 am

    Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that, Victoria! We work so hard on our blogs, sometimes sacrificing things to maintain them, and being treated like that is just not acceptable. I wish they would payments in advance. Maybe you should just remove their post from your site.
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  11. June 5, 2014 / 3:35 pm

    Love the prose, very ‘to the point’ and tells it how it should be heard! Hope next week is a better one for you xx

  12. June 5, 2014 / 1:26 pm

    People are really awful at times how they try to cheat and not pay! It’s shameful. Hope you get everything sorted. Wish you were local to me to be my driving teacher!! As I’ve failed so many times maybe you could help :p lol
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  13. June 5, 2014 / 1:22 pm

    I think you should send this poem to the people/companies involved. I know I wouldn’t mess with you after reading that! You go and kick some ass!
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  14. June 5, 2014 / 12:22 pm

    Blimey! What a rubbish week and what a bunch of n*bs!!!! I’m so sorry people are being idiots but I am very excited to hear you stand up for yourself as that is exactly what I am like. I always stand up if someone is treating me badly. Like those stupid trolls a few weeks ago. Hope everything gets sorted ASAP! xxx
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  15. June 5, 2014 / 11:39 am

    I can feel myself getting angry on your behalf just reading that! I hope you manage to get all things sorted. I thought the poem was very mild compared to the language you could have used in it!
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  16. Maddy@writingbubble
    June 5, 2014 / 11:30 am

    What a horrible week you’ve had! I hope you manage to sort it all out – bet you get the full payment since you are so clearly in the right! It’s completely unfair that companies treat people like this. I’m glad you are sticking up for yourself so well. Your poem nails it! I’m glad to be back with #prose4T after my month off linkies!
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  17. Michelle
    June 5, 2014 / 11:04 am

    I love this post and think it is a brilliant poem but sorry to hear about your nightmare 🙁 How can people be so rude x

  18. June 5, 2014 / 9:50 am

    Good for you! i love the poem and quite literally says it all! x

  19. June 5, 2014 / 9:43 am

    Who do these people think they are? Really. Stick to your guns I say.
    Funny that both our poetic voices are a bit cross this week – mine with itself, yours with some other fools. Don’t let them bring you down hon. We live, we learn eh? I’d pour a large glass of wine, run a hot bath and watch / read something fabulous. Should get them off your mind and sort you out a treat 😉 x
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  20. Sarah Miles
    June 5, 2014 / 8:19 am

    Unbelievable. Or is it? Sadly not; there are so many dodgy companies out there and as for customer service or allegiance…

    I am sorry you are having such a bad time. Stay strong and f*** ’em!

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  21. June 5, 2014 / 8:00 am

    Sometimes what I really see is the post about companies and I didn’t see what happens after. People can be insensitive and hopefully everything will be sorted out soon. The poem is spot on. I can feel the anger, pain and frustration I hope that helped in calming some nerves.
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  22. Steph
    June 5, 2014 / 7:24 am

    So sorry you’ve had a rubbish time of it. The older I get the more I realise that the biggest frustrations in life are down to other people not doing their jobs properly! So frustrating! I hope things get easier asap. Xx
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  23. June 5, 2014 / 7:16 am

    Oh Vic that sounds like a horrible week! If people have agreed they should stick to it! I am glad you are standing up and making sure they know what’s what, I wish you luck and wait to hear more! I also hope your driving school can get sorted. That’s a great poem for when you’re fed up, I am feeling fed up but for different reasons, I am trying to finish my dissertation and then I never want to see another textbook again! X
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    • June 5, 2014 / 9:45 am

      Ooh well done Emily. Good luck with that 🙂
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  24. Emma from over at LIFE AS IT IS
    June 5, 2014 / 7:12 am

    Oh hell Vicky, NIGHTMARE. So sorry u are facing this. Having to face this. Where do people get off? My publishing house I work for is 2 months behind payment – it makes all the difference to me and none to them.
    I also have expect to paid within one month of invoicing… it is a bloody joke. Having worked at the publishing house, I also am aware of how many departments need to see the invoice and sign it off. Too many times, it would get left in in trays… NIGHTMARE. Hope you get it sorted soon. I wait to find out… With interest! x
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  25. June 5, 2014 / 5:55 am

    Oh hon what a crappy week! Really pleased you’ve come to a bit of a solution with the new owner, and I really hope you get your driving business on track. Great poem – love your resolve 🙂 chin up xx
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  26. June 5, 2014 / 5:53 am

    Brilliant post and poem. Sorry to hear the driving school is in a mess. Shame you are not local to me,I am looking for one for my son who turns 17 later this month!
    I am going through something similar here regards to payment……..I am a childminder and took on two new children at the end of April. I deferred Aprils payment until the May invoice as I was asked to as the parent had to pay her previous childminders fees. As it was less than a week I didn’t mind.
    I charge in arrears and my contracts state that I expect to be paid by 1st of the month and with this in mind my invoice goes out at least one week before. I received no payment this month and when I chased (politely) I get a text back saying she cannot pay.
    So, I have looked after two children, fed them, taken them to soft play and even Peppa Pig World all out of my own pocket.
    People would be hopping mad if their wages weren’t paid on their due date, why should it be any different for self employed?
    She has left me stranded, we were relying on that money……hubby has just returned to work after a period of unemployment and we exhausted all our savings during that time and then its my daughters 21st birthday on Friday. Whilst I have her presents, we are supposed to be taking her out for a meal on Friday which is looking like it will have to be cancelled now
    Sorry *rant over*
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    • nortonmum
      June 6, 2014 / 9:38 am

      You must be angry Victoria, this isn’t like you. Well said in the poem & I hope the money is on it’s way. x
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