Following my series on YouTube, The Conception Diaries and our attempts to get pregnant, our IVF baby is due in July 2017. My last update was at 30 weeks pregnant when I wrote about a midwife appointment, some acupuncture, a memorial service and our antenatal class.
I am now 31 weeks pregnant. As I type this, I have just 57 days to go. Our boy weighs around 3.3lbs and is about the size of a coconut.
A tour of the maternity unit
Last Sunday, Ross and I went on a tour of our maternity unit. I have to confess that I was in a right old emotional state that day (poor Ross!) and was convinced that our tour started at 1pm. A member of staff came out to us when we reached the maternity area and confirmed that someone would come and find us at 2pm! Whoops! Ross and I needed a few bits for our cat so we nipped off to Pets at Home and returned ready for 2pm. The midwife, Sue (they all seemed to be called Sue that day!), could tell I was a bit emotional and was really lovely to me.
There were around 10 couples on the tour and we started off in the birthing rooms. The first one contained the birthing pool and was exactly what I wanted! There was also a bed, a private bathroom and some relaxing lighting. We then visited another room without a birthing pool. The midwife showed us the the kitchen facilities – mainly for the partners benefit – where they can make tea, coffee and toast. There is also tea, coffee, etc in the rooms. Along the end of the corridor was the surgery where they carried out the C-Sections.
We went down a floor to the wards. There were around 4 women to a room. There were also private rooms for families under special circumstances. At the end of this corridor was the SCBU. This meant that the mothers were not far from their babies.
I have to say that I was really impressed with what I saw. I felt very comfortable and everyone was so lovely. It really has helped to put my mind at ease.
A visit from the health visitor
On Monday morning our health visitor, Debbie, came to visit. She chatted through what I knew about health visitors, my previous birth and the issues surrounding my last relationship. Ross was able to sit in and ask questions too. Debbie was lovely. Very supportive and understanding. She presented us with lots of leaflets. She explained that there was a children’s centre locally which I could visit both before and after the baby is born.
This is the week where the swelling has been at it’s most prominent. My ankles look elephant-like, my feet are huge and I only have one pair of sandals that still fit me. My finger and hands are now also swollen and I cannot get the rings off either of my hands. As a result of this, I worked from bed with my feet up on both Tuesday and Wednesday.
Turning 46 years old
Thursday was my 46th birthday. I wrote a post sharing my thoughts about this and was rather chuffed that it was shared a number of times from different people including Mumsnet – plus I had loads of lovely supportive comments.
To start the day, Grace brought me some coffee and toast in bed, together with a beautiful card she had made. After she left for school, and following the advice of the health visitor, Ross and I visited the town hall to see the CAB who were there every other week. We wanted to find out a bit more about my Maternity Allowance and where we stood. After that we went to a couple of shops, bought some lunch and a birthday cake and visited Costa for a coffee and a chat.
I spent the rest of the day on the sofa with my feet up, mainly visiting and catching up on other blogs. I chose to open my presents when Grace came home from school. There were some really useful things including a TENS machine and a birthing ball but I had the surprise of my life from Ross. When I opened his card, for some reason, it said 80 today on it. I told him he was a cheeky sod but, as I opened my present, it started to click. He gave me a Canon 80D camera and I am not ashamed to admit that I cried because I was so happy!
We had the cream tea which my wonderful mum had considerately sent us the previous day. We also played some LEGO Star Wars. Ross and Grace cooked two different curries for our tea together with poppadums and we watched the film, Rogue One. I had a wonderful day.
My beautiful daughter
Grace has seen just how bad my feet has been this week. On Friday evening when she got back from her swimming session with her friends, we sat down to watch the film ‘Far and Away’ and she asked me to rest my feet on her lap. Using my cooling lotion, she gave me a lovely foot massage and was so kind to me. That girl has a beautiful spirit and is going to go far!
31 weeks + 5 days bump
This weeks bump photo had to feature daddy! Men sometimes get forgotten during pregnancy and I have to say that Ross is just as excited as I am. He has been a great support to me and always taken over when I have been feeling tired. Grace is great with a camera and did a good job of taking this photo.
This week we are back to the hospital for our 32 week scan. I am looking forward to seeing our baby and finding out a bit more about our delivery options. We are hoping to get the housework under control a little more. I also want to start packing my hospital bag.