Guest What? Life With Tweens

Guest What BadgeWelcome to this week’s ‘Guest What’. This feature gives writers of other blogs the chance to submit a post and put it up on my site. It may be that they write here about something they wouldn’t normally say or put up on their own site, or may be they would like my readers to know more about them…whatever your reason you are very welcome here 🙂

This week’s guest blogger is the lovely Suzanne Whitton from 3 Children and It. She was one of the first bloggers I ever met and, it was she who told me that I was a finalist in the MAD Blog Awards this year! She writes a great blog post and I am happy to share one of those here.

3 Children and ItIf you’re not familiar with my blog, the name pretty much spells out what we’re all about: the ups and downs of family life with 3 children and 1 ‘It’ (and that’s our loveable pooch, not a derogatory term for the OH!).

Unlike many of the blogs I read, we are now well and truly out of the ‘young kids’ stage and battling against the odds to raise 2 tweens and 1 teenager; hoping to come out the other side with all limbs still intact. I think it would be fair to say that I regularly put the fear of God into my readers (especially those with younger children) as I regale stories of learning to let go, missing my old life and our latest parenting dilemma.

So today, I thought I would turn this thing on its head and give you all something to look forward to….

  1. Sleep. They may stay up later and later but you will never again get woken in the night and that whole lie-in thing that seems like a dim and distant memory right now? Don’t expect to see any of your Tweens surfacing before 9 am on a Saturday morning – bliss!
  2. Playground Mafia. It’s overthat dreaded pressure to make small talk with the other school mums, as you wait for your little darling to emerge. No parent is ever allowed to set foot on school ground once your child commences Secondary School and that’s not a bad thing, trust me!
  3. Kids’ Films. Ok some of them are bearable but others are downright drivel. Slowly but surely you will begin to enjoy the same films and bid a fond farewell to Disney and the likes of Turbo (if you’ve not seen it yet, don’t bother!).
  4. Bribery. Yep, this still works for older children. But now, instead of offering sweets that will rot their teeth, you can actually get something out of it ….try vacuuming in exchange for a taxi ride to their best friend’s house.
  5. Birthday Parties. Those dreadful, noisy, hectic afternoons spent with 25 sugar-fuelled rug rats are a thing of the past – yay! Ok you might have to offer up a sleepover or a day out at a theme park but seriously, anything is better than those 3 hours of torture.
  6. Restaurants. Finally, McDonalds is not the only eatery that will accept your child. They may even begin attempting foreign food and a meal out could be an enjoyable affair with all family members remaining at the table for longer than 10 minutes.
  7. Christmas Fayre. This has to be one of the most dreaded dates in the calendar for all parents – hot, noisy and rip-off are three words which spring to mind. The end is in sight! Even if your Secondary School is one of the unusual ones, your child will no longer be seen dead with you so you can drop them off at the door – result all round!
  8. Swimming. One of my least favourite family activities. Why? Getting wet, communal changing rooms and suspicious looking items roaming the floor. Enough said. Did you know that once your child reaches 8 years old you don’t need to accompany them? The odd encouraging wave from the comfort of your chair as you sup on a cappuccino will suffice.
  9. Fashion advice. Perhaps you’ve reached that stage where you’re not all that sure what someone of your age should be wearing. Never fear, once you have a Tween in your midst, there is no danger of ever making a fashion faux pas again. You’ll know about it before you’ve had a chance to set foot outside the door!
  10. Over to you. If you’re a parent with younger children, what are you most looking forward to about having older children? Or if you’re already there, what would you add to my attempt at exciting all those who have yet to experience ‘Life with Tweens’?

Find Suzanne on her blog, on Facebook and on Twitter.

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  1. November 26, 2013 / 10:01 pm

    Fab post Suzanne x x x

  2. November 26, 2013 / 3:08 pm

    Fab post as ever by Suzanne. And it means VeViVos can make its appearance on the Britmums teen and tween round-up three whole years early!
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  3. November 26, 2013 / 2:29 pm

    Fantastic post, I have to say the one thing I don’t miss is the playground mafia……intimidating or what. Xxx
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    • November 26, 2013 / 9:32 pm

      As I was standing on the playground today waiting for my son, I was having a little chuckle inside….he’s my last one and it will all be over!

  4. Joyce Brookes
    November 26, 2013 / 10:07 am

    As one with these experiences four times over let me assure you all that if they were lovely human beings once they will return to that state and you can then again be happy families. Really enjoyed that blog Suzanne

  5. Alexandra Mercer
    November 26, 2013 / 8:54 am

    I like your approach, I can definitely relate to a lot of what you say. I have one teenager, three tweens , a toddler and a baby, they are all adorable in their own way and equally as challenging. For me the best thing about my son now being a teenager is our banter! 🙂
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    • November 26, 2013 / 9:24 pm

      That’s one thing I did forget to mention, we are now all beginning to laugh at the same things….Miranda being a firm favourite 🙂

    • November 26, 2013 / 9:25 pm

      You see and there was me trying to tell everyone that things get better, you could have humoured me Izzie!

  6. November 26, 2013 / 8:46 am

    There is hope. Hurrah.
    I have three 5 and unders. The teenage years terrify me but then, as a friend pointed out the other day, 7 years ago the baby years gave me the fear. I am looking forward to doing family trips – theatre, cinema, museums etc without having to spend the vast majority of the time taking each one of them to the toilet. I am aware this phase will be short lived, before they won’t want to be seen dead with me on family trips, but surely we will get a couple of years toilet trained, and happy to be seen out together???
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    • November 26, 2013 / 10:05 am

      Oh you will Mary, I promise! We are in this stage right now and I’m hoping it will last for at least another 2 years. You’ve reminded me to make the most of that, thank you 🙂

  7. November 26, 2013 / 8:37 am

    Brilliant post, so glad there is hope! 🙂 I’m looking forward to: lie ins, being able to play board games with our kids that we all enjoy (although orchard games are pretty fun, they’re not really a fun evening of family entertainment), having proper conversations with them about Topics of Interest, sharing my favourite books with them, not needing a buggy, them having their own projects that don’t require my involvement all the time, being able to give them a mug/glass/bowl without having to mop up all the cnotents from the floor and the sofa five seconds later etc. Lots to look forward to!
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    • November 26, 2013 / 10:06 am

      Judith, just yesterday I was saying how lovely it is not to have to do the whole ‘make-believe’ play any more and pretend I’m enjoying it! We all love a good game – cards, Monopoly, Risk, you name it we’re playing it! There are pros to having little ones but you’ve got LOTS to look forward to 🙂

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