I turned 30 back in the year 2001. Geri Halliwell was number one with ‘It’s Raining Men’ (no, I didn’t like it either), Sven-Goran Eriksson became manager of the England football team, the foot and mouth crisis hit, the Eden Project opened, the Twin Towers were attacked by Al-Qaeda and the first Harry Potter film opened. I didn’t want to be in my thirties. In fact, I hated it. I cried. For almost 6 months. Then it suddenly hit me. What was my problem? I still had LOADS of years ahead of me and so much to do and suddenly I loved my age! Two of the sayings that I regularly use are that things happen for a reason and that it is better to regret the things I have done, than the things I haven’t. However, if I could change anything, would I?
Well, the answer to that is simple. Yes. But not everything. The main thing I would have changed was my relationship. I would have left so much sooner and found a man who treated me with respect but alas, that wasn’t to be and there is something wonderful that came out of my mid-thirties. Grace. She is an old head on young shoulders who is starting now to understand her emotions far better than I did at her age. She is starting to realise who she is and what she wants and Ross and I are keen to encourage her.
When I was 32 I changed my career completely. At the time I was working in an office dealing with housing relocation and repossession. It was something I totally stopped enjoying and so, when it was suggested to me that I might like to become a driving instructor, I chose a course which I believed would help me. It didn’t, not really. Much of it I could have done myself and all that happened was that it cost me a bunch of money. I really have made some bad financial decisions in my life so I do wish I could go back and change those. But the best decision I did make with my driving instructor training was meeting John Farlam and using his SmartDriving course. That man was a godsend.
My thirties were a mixed bag of ups and downs. Qualifying as a Driving Instructor and giving me the freedom of self-employment was wonderful. Then, just before I turned 36, I found out I was pregnant. The main lows came towards the end of my thirties as I went through hell with my ex at the same time as being in heaven with having had Grace. Talk about mixed emotions!
I don’t believe that anyone can predict your future in full but I have been known to consult psychics in the past, such as thecircle.com. They gave me comfort and, to me, it felt like a type of counselling. There was one lady who I regularly spoke to. Her name was Sheila. She would use tarot cards and there was so much that she predicted that did come true. I firmly believe though that we are the masters of our own destiny. The paths are shown to us but it is up to us which one we take. There is a brilliant poem about this called ‘The Road Not Taken’ by Robert Frost, very similar to the film ‘Sliding Doors’ with Gwyneth Paltrow.
I think we all have a basic path in life. I just think some of us take the long way round.
Disclosure: In return for this post I was given an Argos voucher to treat my 43 year old self