My Blog, My Space, My Terms. An Apology.

1512576_10152212433047664_409482526_nOK, so with this blog title you are probably thinking I’m getting shirty. I’m not…no way. What I am doing though is putting my foot down. As any blogger knows – especially the wonderful community I associate with – your blog is your personal space, your words and your ‘baby’.

Over the last couple of months I have started to feel a sense of not being in control of what I do. It’s great to be able to make a living from writing, expressing my own opinions and words and be able to get paid to do it. What has happened though is that I have started to let far too many pre-written sponsored posts filter in and this is not why I created my own little corner of the internet.

The reason I started my blog was so that I had somewhere to vocalise, to share my thoughts and opinions, display my poetry and talk about my experiences – blogging or otherwise – as well as review products and help people with a decision on whether they are worthy of a purchase. I had no idea sponsored posts existed when I first started!

I am fully aware that there are some bloggers out there who are happy to accept whatever comes their way at whatever price it is and that is completely their business. Of course, I understand why when there are bills to pay – I completely support their decision because, don’t get me wrong, I will continue to take on sponsored posts but I will be far more selective and will be limiting my intake of what I choose to publish on my blog – particularly if the post is not in my words. Take the previous post on this blog for example – it is exactly written as I would’ve had said it AND it is something that is very relevant to me as a Driving Instructor plus I believe it would be of interest to my readers.

Taking part in the Somerset leg of the Team Honk relay was hard work. I wasn’t getting paid to do it , I CHOSE to do it. Because I wanted to. Because I wanted to make a difference to peoples lives. Just like the M&S and Kiddicare donations for Refuge at Christmas. It made me feel good to know that I had done something to help someone.

Now I need to help myself. I am not earning enough. I am losing all control over who I am, what my blog is about and what I want to be true to and it needs to stop.

It may be that I will turn down opportunities. There is a saying that if something is too good to be true then it generally is. I need to remember that. I need to send a polite no thank you to emails that don’t apply to me. I need to accept the offers made that really matter to me – not try and grasp every single thing that comes my way ‘just in case’, as well as seek out opportunities that I know I will put my heart and soul into.

So I want to apologise. I am sorry if the quality of my blog has suffered. From now on, on my blog dear readers you will see quality, not quantity. That is how I want it to be.

My blog, my space, my terms.



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  2. January 19, 2014 / 8:56 pm

    Good for you.

    Quite a few of the blogs I follow are becoming like daily review sites. Sometimes useful but shouldn’t be the be-all and end-all of blogging.

    Of course incentives are nice but I always make sure my content is relevant to me. So far I’ve only been sent one pre-written article. I was interested in the topic but the language wasn’t me. I responded to the offer with my re-written version and they liked it. It’s about honest communication I think πŸ™‚

    Keep on keeping on πŸ™‚ x
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  3. January 19, 2014 / 5:12 pm

    You sound like you were getting rather disheartened and out of sorts – I’m glad you’ve identified what was not working for you so now you can go back to enjoying blogging again. I enjoy your site and think you do a great and generous job running PoCoLo and Prose for Thought, which has introduced me to lots of other great blogs (other than you I mean, not me, haha!). Being a newbie I have not been dazzled by a single offer but can understand how tempting it would be to capitalise on them. Best wishes to you.
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  4. January 19, 2014 / 8:10 am

    Stick with what you want for your blog. I hardly have any sponsored posts as I don’t feel they are right for me, that’s not to say I wouldn’t do any, just not many and the same with competitions and prize draws, on my terms to fit my blog schedule. You need to be in control of your own blog and make it how you choose with more or less paid for content to suit you.
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  5. January 18, 2014 / 9:18 pm

    You don’t have to apologise because you do have a nice blog! But yes, if you feel that your own voice is getting lost somewhere, you need to think about changing things.
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  6. January 18, 2014 / 7:52 am

    Good for you! This has always been my view on my own blog. To date I have done THREE sponsored posts – all for things which were relevant to me and fitted with my blog. I probably say no to nine out of ten things which are offered to me – whether reviews or sponsored posts or guest posts – as they don’t fit in with my blog and my family.
    I’ve reviewed everything from sweets to a table tennis table because my family would be interested in them. But I’ve turned down far more stuff which isn’t relevant. Like you, I get that people need to do these posts for money – and I am always happy when I receive payment for a post. But I stop reading blogs which are full of sponsored posts and lose respect for the blogger.
    It will be good to have the real you back!
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  7. January 18, 2014 / 12:54 am

    I am SO pleased that you wrote this and linked to #AllAboutYou – your personality is one of the most engaging things about your blog, and when you write it shines through. It is a wonderful thing to be earning from doing something that you enjoy, however it does have to be enjoyable, as that was the motivation for your space in the first place! I turn down a lot of requests, especially when they are so far removed from the tone and feel of my blog, as I really want to keep it a space that is true to me and my interests. It means less paid work, and I’d love that to go up, but not at the expense of not being happy with the blog. Good for you, it’s a brave step and a stand, and I am definitely cheering you on, and inspired by it too! Xx
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  8. January 17, 2014 / 9:32 pm

    It’s so tempting when people offer you money for very little work as such so i totally get the reasons why bloggers accept those opportunities. But like you, I think the credibility and voice of your blog has to come first which is why I am trying to limit any that I do this year. Good luck with getting back to basics and well done on being good enough at what you do to have the luxury to pick and choose! xx
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  9. January 17, 2014 / 9:22 pm

    Brilliant! Sometimes it can be hard – in our family we blog as a hobby not as an income but sometimes accept the odd incentivised post e.g. a small voucher for the kids to buy something if they’ve helped with the post etc – and it can feel tricky to say no. eg working with a brand you really feel close to but then their PR agent asks you to post something totally unrelated as happened with us (I did say no). I’ve also decided to make review posts as personal as i want to and include stuff that i want my children to look back on and remember and not worry about whether the brand will like it or not. (turned out they loved it so i needn’t have worried). Well done you for making that decision! xxx

    • January 18, 2014 / 6:14 pm

      Such a great attitude lovely lady. It is hard when you need the money but I also need to make sure that I don’t lose my readers! Thank you for your support x
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  10. Sarah Miles
    January 17, 2014 / 8:23 pm

    Well said.

    And welcome back. Your blog is you. And it’s beautiful just as it is.

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  11. January 17, 2014 / 8:21 pm

    Well said, I don’t put anything on my blog that unless I can see a relevance to my blog. The post I’ve just written is on a subject I was scheduling in anyway, so it really did fit. I don’t understand why people post ‘anything’ even if money is tight, it just looks out of place. I also think you have to be careful, imo too many sponsored posts are a turn off, I just don’t click past the Bloglovin summary page to read them if there are loads.
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  12. Emma
    January 17, 2014 / 7:52 pm

    Vicky oh Vicky… Welcome back! You sold ur blog soul out there for a wee while. I’ve no doubt u will only feel relief about this. I for one will stop and read more if it is honest post about u over an honest review! Xxx
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  13. January 17, 2014 / 5:34 pm

    I love your honest words about sponsored posts. It’s hard turning down opportunities when it means paid work. I’m still trying to decide on my route so to speak. I have turned down any paid reviews and sponsored posts so far but I do use affiliate links. One of my goals is to highlight British kids brands to US and overseas but I try to make sure they’re companies I want to promote.
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    • January 18, 2014 / 6:10 pm

      You are right Kriss – it is not easy to turn things down when you need the money but I don’t want to compromise the quality of my blog. Thank you for your support x
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  14. January 17, 2014 / 2:53 pm

    It’s interesting reading your thoughts and the comments because I’ve been going through something similar in my thoughts too. I love writing and I don’t want to lose that, but yet I still need to earn money. In the end it’s all about balance, and compromise and where you’re willing to make those compromises-not unlike life I guess!
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  15. January 17, 2014 / 12:46 pm

    Oh I’m so with you on this. Trying to get back to what my blog was originally for, with just a smattering of the ‘fun’ stuff. I know that I rarely revisit a blog with lots of sponsored posts and would far rather be engaging with people (which you help us all do so nicely with #PoCoLo )! x

  16. January 17, 2014 / 12:29 pm

    Hey Mrs! Spied this post before I even realised you’d linked up to #AllAboutYou – for which I am very happy – you are so spot on with your sentiments, I’ve been going through the same thought process in the last month or so and doing that has given me a new focus for my blog, where there won’t be anything that I am totally happy to have on it. I’m thinking long-term and creating something I am proud of and I can see that you are as well. It’s all part of the process, try things, see if they fit, adapt, learn, move on. Good luck to you, you have a fabulous blog and I look forward to seeing where it is at – and where you are at in a year’s time. Thanks so much for linking up to #AllAboutYou… about to head off and pin this post onto our #AllAboutYou Pinterest Board xx P.S Sorry for long rambling comment!
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    • January 17, 2014 / 1:38 pm

      Thank you SO much for your wonderful compliment Luci. I am so glad you are with me on this. Really chuffed I am able to link up this week – I wrote this a couple of days agoo, umming and erring whether or not to publish but knew it would fit with your linky πŸ™‚ It is time to make sure that my readers don’t get bored with the content on my blog and that it is engaging πŸ™‚ x
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  17. January 17, 2014 / 12:25 pm

    Your post really struck a chord with me. My blog is very much about family outings but even so I’ve been approached by companies who, I’m guessing, haven’t even looked at it and the types of post I publish. I know I’ve turned down opportunities that might have been interesting if I’d had a different kind of blog, but I want to stick to posts that I’m happy with. Although, if someone offers our family a no-expense spared holiday I’ll say yes!

    • January 17, 2014 / 1:36 pm

      I always love reading your blog Christine and I really can see that it is written by you πŸ™‚ I think the holiday thing is understandable – so would I! x

  18. January 17, 2014 / 11:18 am

    Oh I know just how you feel, I haven’t really gone down the sponsored post very often, but in the lead up to Christmas I got offered so many reviews of fab things that I said yes to far too many, and ended up slightly embarrassed about the ration of review to normal posts. But we need to remember we are both still relatively new to this game, and I think this is a lesson all bloggers learn at some point, and now it is our turn – I am with you, I will still be taking paid work and review items, but less often, and when they really fit rather than saying yes to all sorts!
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    • January 17, 2014 / 1:35 pm

      Thank you so much for your response Sonya. I have to admit that I was a bit worried when I wrote this as I wondered whether people would get what I meant! I am so glad that you do πŸ™‚ x

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