Happy 6th Birthday, Grace! A Message to My Girl

Dearest Grace,

Today is your 6th Birthday. 6? Really? REALLY?! You and I have been through so much together and I have strived to protect you, make sure you are a decent person and learn good morals. I believe that you have learnt all these things and more.

You were born on a Tuesday – like me, your first middle name is Frances – like me and the last 4 generations on my Mum’s side, and you were born 10 days early. See my guest post on Romanian Mum’s blog for labour details!

After we were forced out of the family home just 3 short months after you were born, we went to live with Granny. She is one of the best role models you could wish for, plus she was my other pair of hands. So, when it came time to move into a place of our own – just after you had turned two – it was kind of scary knowing we were going it alone. But I needn’t have been scared at all! It was you and me against the world!

You looked after me as much as I looked after you. I can remember the times when I would sit and cry. At the age of 3 you would say to me ‘it’s ok Mummy, you don’t need to cry. I’ll look after you. Would you like a cup of tea?’ despite the fact there is no way you would reach the kettle!

You have such a big personality in one so small. You say the funniest things (see my Girls Talk posts every Tuesday!), you are so kind – you keep taking money out of your money box and giving some to me or Ross (teaching you the meaning of money is next on our list), you are extremely polite – something I instilled from the outset and you are empathetic. We had an incident with you lying to us a few weeks ago but, as I have always done – and thankfully, as does Ross – we explained what you had done and why it was wrong, made sure you understood and then you apologised to the people concerned.

Not only are you following in the performance footsteps by learning to ice skate and, now, starting to make up your own plays, I’m afraid you also have my emotions. There are two prominent times that come to mind. The first was back in the Easter holidays. You were watching ‘Babe: Pig in the City’ I heard you gasp, shout ‘Oh no, oh no’ and burst into tears. It was because the little dog who had wheels instead of legs had fallen over, couldn’t get up and appeared to have died. All I could do was comfort you. The next time was a couple of weeks ago, the Friday before Christmas. You, Ross and I were watching ‘Titanic’. I was in two minds about you watching it, but you were keen so we went with it (we sent you up to get ready for bed when Rose and Jack got in the car! 😉 ). It wasn’t until Jack died that your flood gates opened. You were sobbing your dear little heart out. That showed us your emotional depth.

Finally, instead of it just being you and me against the world, this last year we moved in with Ross to make it the three musketeers! Despite the fact that you still see your father (and I need to let you make your own decisions about him as you get older and understand better) you have asked Ross if you can call him ‘Dad’ twice now. He isn’t ready, but you are. You and him are great together and I hope one day that you will get a positive response to that question. We have had some brilliant times together, the three of us. We call ourselves the WWW family as our surnames all begin the same way!

Many, many people have said what a credit to me you are and I wholeheartedly agree with them. I have a few songs which remind me of you. The first is ‘Your Song’ by Elton John. I sang along to it on the radio when you were a few days old and you fell asleep in my arms. The second is ‘Grace’ by Simon Webbe. This got me through the dark days when I was dealing with your father and thirdly ‘Rule the World’ by Take That. It was playing the day we moved into our own place and I remember us playing it the last day you were at the flat with me, just before we moved in with Ross, and we cried (in a good way!). When you were a baby, I was always singing ‘Tuppence a Bag’ from the film ‘Mary Poppins’ as a lullaby to get you to sleep. This tradition carried on for a few years.

My gorgeous girl, my Gracie-pop, my Tuesdays Child, a credit to me and to Ross, I can’t wait to see what the year of you being 6 brings.

So my darling,  do you make me proud?  Yes, you do, everyday.

All my love, Mummy xxx

Photographs taken by George Riddell at www.myworldmyeyes.co.uk

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Today, 1st April 2013, I’m linking this post up to Jaime’s blog at The Olivers Madhouse as part of the Magic Moments link.




  1. Nichola Fabfortymum
    April 1, 2013 / 10:13 pm

    oh how beautiful this post is. I got all emotional reading it. Grace is just a beautiful girl and she looks so like her mummy x
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    • Victoria
      April 1, 2013 / 10:55 pm

      Thanks so much Nichola. I am thinking of putting this forward for a keynote speech at BritMums 🙂

  2. April 1, 2013 / 6:37 pm

    Lovely post and her personality shines through in those pictures. My D’s middle name is Grace, it’s a beautiful name and conjures up serenity but feistiness which your G looks like she has x
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    • Victoria
      April 1, 2013 / 10:59 pm

      That sums up Grace completely :), thank you so much for your comment Jeannette x

  3. April 1, 2013 / 6:37 pm

    Lovely post and her personality shines through in those pictures. My D’s middle name is Grace, it’s a beautiful name and conjures up serenity but feistiness which your G looks like she has x
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    • Victoria
      April 1, 2013 / 10:59 pm

      Thanks – she really is, but then I am biased! 🙂 x

  4. Karen Marquick
    April 1, 2013 / 1:53 pm

    Lovely post. I remember when Samuel turned 6, it seems so grown up all of a sudden. My nephew also had his 6th birthday this year and my brother said the same. Grace is beautiful. Her hair is gorgeous and wavy. x
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  5. April 1, 2013 / 10:55 am

    What a lovely letter! One day she will be able to read this and it will be such a precious thing. I need to do more stuff like this! Popped over from Magic Moments!
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  6. April 1, 2013 / 10:39 am

    Grace is a beautiful name! What a beautiful daughter you have and what a strong bond. You must have been so proud of her turning 6, my boy is 6 this October and I don’t know where the years have gone. Lovely words xx
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  7. April 1, 2013 / 10:08 am

    What a beautiful post,I love the photograph of Grace with her arms folded and the determined expression 🙂 It seems you have a very special little lady there. That’s lovely about Grace wanting to call Grace Dad, I have a man I call Dad. He’s not my Dad but he’s been in my life for the past 21 years and he’s the best Step-Dad anyone could wish for and I treasure him all the more since my real Dad is no longer with us.
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  8. April 1, 2013 / 9:18 am

    Happy Birthday…she is a cutie…the pictures are fantastic x
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  9. April 1, 2013 / 8:39 am

    Happy Birthday Grace! My magic moments post is on a similar theme too as H was 6 at the weekend. You’ve picked out some lovely photos for this post.
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  10. April 1, 2013 / 8:32 am

    Wow what a lovely lovely post. She sounds amazing and so caring. I’ve never heard of do many generations having the same middle name but that sounds really special!
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  11. January 3, 2013 / 11:45 am

    What a beautiful post 🙂
    All GG’s friends have watched Titanic, but I just can’t bring myself to show her. Partly for the car scene (!) and partly because she would have nightmares for months. She knows about the stuff that goes on in the car, but not why it would look so sweaty, and she know the history of the Titanic, but it scares her.
    I need to write some posts like this one to my kids. I sense some changes in Actually Mummy this year…
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    • Victoria
      January 3, 2013 / 7:30 pm

      And what a lovely compliment, thank you so much. It means a lot to me when much more experienced bloggers like something I have posted :). Happy New Year 🙂 x p.s. looking forward to starting up the funee again next week!

  12. January 2, 2013 / 4:53 pm

    Awww Happy Birthday Grace! You are the same age as B Lloyd we celebrated her 6th birthday in November 🙂

    Sounds like Grace is a wonderful little lady, and her pictures are gorgeous!
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    • Victoria
      January 2, 2013 / 8:54 pm

      Thank you so much Louise 🙂

    • Victoria
      January 2, 2013 / 8:53 pm

      I know, great isn’t it! Her character really shines through! 🙂

  13. January 2, 2013 / 11:00 am

    Fantastic post! i love it! she is a credit to you, i know from experience too how hard being a single mum can be and you have done an amazing job! I have no doubt as she grows she will be a confident, independent, loving person (just like her mum!)

    Happy Birthday Grace 🙂

    • Victoria
      January 2, 2013 / 8:53 pm

      Thank you so much lovely 🙂 x

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