For many years I was ostracised from my family by my ex. He hated Christmas. Whenever I got out the Christmas Tree he complained. He wouldn’t see my family, his family and ‘felt forced’ into buying presents. On Christmas Day he would go out on his motorcycle whilst I was left to make our Christmas dinner and pay a quick visit to my family.
That all changed at the end of 2007. By that point I had left Mr Scrooge. Grace was almost 1 year old and I was living with my Mum. Suddenly I was involved in a proper family Christmas again. Grace experienced her first surrounded by people we loved – and who loved us. I will never forget waking up on Christmas Day sharing Grace’s first stocking with her.
A majority of my family were there. 4 of my brothers and sisters came, my Uncle, my Granddad, my Step-dad and, of course, my Mum. We all sat and opened our presents, and, despite the fact that I was going through a rough time, I was finally happy. I remember cuddling my Mum and crying because, finally, I was experiencing a Christmas that I hadn’t had in a long time.
Then, a couple of years later, Ross came along together with a new kind of happiness. That year we spent Christmas at his house with him and his family. We put a bed together in his spare room for Grace, constructing it as Christmas songs played. We felt so festive and excited.
We woke up on Christmas morning and Ross went into the lounge without us to lay out all the presents whilst I started the cooking. The rest of his family turned up and finally we were allowed into the lounge where Grace’s eyes lit up and the song ‘I Really Don’t Hate Christmas’ from the show ‘Phineas and Ferb’ was playing. Grace just kept telling everyone she was having the best time. One of the funniest moments had to be Grace’s poor face when we lit the Christmas pudding!
I think that the most special memory of that year though was Christmas Eve morning. Ross and I went to see Grace in her new bed. We lay down with her and Ross put The Snowman on her CD player. We listened to the whole thing and, when it came to ‘Walking in the Air’ we took a cuddly toy each and made it fly. I couldn’t have been happier for me and my little girl. We had a man who loved Christmas as much as we did.
Now, every Christmas is a great Christmas. Ross, Grace and I have so much fun. The last few we have spent with Ross’ parents but this year I am excited again. We are spending it with my Mum but this time Ross will be with us. I can’t wait for him to experience my family’s side of Christmas!
As in previous years, we will travel to the destination where we are spending Christmas with all our festive songs playing on the CD. We will have a car packed with presents and full of festive cheer. But best of all, we will have each other.
This is my entry into the Transun competition to win a trip to Lapland.