A couple of days ago Ross and I had a big chat about the things we do for love. It was one of those talks where you just need to stop and think and decide what direction we wanted our lives and, as a result, our relationship to take.
It is so easy to take the other person for granted. You get into a relationship and it is all new and exciting. You constantly want to impress one another and show the other person how much you want to be with them and how much they mean to you. Time moves on and you either decide to take the next big step with each other…or apart.
When you decide to stay, the relationship moulds and changes and eventually it starts to become a sort of comfortable pair of slippers. You know each others traits and little idiosyncrasies and you know where you stand. In among all of this, is easy to start taking the other for granted.
So, I wanted to find out what your significant other does for you – or vice versa – just to remember that we are there for each other. I asked around some of the other bloggers and this is what they came up with:
Suzanne Whitton from 3 Children and It says –
“My other half makes me a cup of tea every single morning. He used to hold the towel out for me as I stepped out of the shower but after 17 years of marriage that’s kind of gone by the wayside ;)”
Sam Thurley from The 40 Year Old Domestic Goddess tells us –
“My hubby also makes me a cuppa every morning but the thing I love most even after 19 years is that he still buys me flowers every weekend.”
Hodge Podge says –
“My husband makes a fry up every Saturday morning. this is ideal, as I make us G&Ts every Friday night… ;)”
Jennifer Howze from Jenography shares with us –
“My husband locks the front door each night. Of course I can do that myself, but his doing it makes me feel looked after.”
Jessica McGlynn from Catch a Single Thought and her husband sound like true romantics –
“We leave each other notes, in random places (I’ll hide one in his wallet, he’ll put one in the tea caddy…) also acknowledging something the other one has done which might have felt like it went unnoticed, such as cleaning the kitchen floor or making the dinner, etc”
Anna Marikar from In The Playroom shares –
“Erm, sounds weird but I always make him hot Ribena 🙂 (he likes it)”
It sounds like Emma Louise Garratt from The Mini Mes and Me and her Mr know where they are in their relationship:
“The Mr makes me a drink every evening and takes it up to my bedside table. He also walks the dog every morning at 5am before he goes to work so I don’t have to worry about anything bar the school run first thing. I purchase him little treats from time to time (I’ve just booked him 6 nights at the TT for next year as a surprise) and make him coffee and his favourite triple decker toasties when he is at home (he works strange shifts)”
It sounds like Liska from New Mum Online has a good share when it comes to childcare:
“When he has Aaron he doesn’t disturb me at all. Like at BritMums Live I didn’t hear from him till end of day two. Any problem he doesn’t disturb me. He classes solving it as what he should do to give me welcome undisturbed peace. I’ve noticed this for 4 years and never told him how much I appreciate it. Aaron always gets so much out of one to one time with Daddy I should find somewhere to go more often.”
Vai Chin at Rambling Through Parenthood –
Cooks me a meal every so often and looks after J when I desperately need a lie-in!
Angela at Life of Spicers –
“My hubby writes me notes on our blackboard in the kitchen.”
Jo Laybourn at My Monkeys Don’t Sit Still –
“My husband makes me coffee 1st thing everyday! Reading these are making me cry and I realise I’ve done my husband no justice at all announcing he makes my coffee daily. He does so much more for me everyday! To add, he buys me flowers regularly, scrapes the ice off the car for me in winter, offers me breakfast before getting his own, often does a bit of ironing to help out and pops to the supermarket if I’ve forgotten anything.”
Ness Gorton from Always Be a Friend –
“Oh my life, do I admit mine does nothing! But as I’m at home more than he is & flowers are a no no as I get hayfever, he’s up & gone before me, never has breakfast, but he does keep a roof over my head. I do daft things like put little notes in his pack up, cut his sandwiches into funny shapes & make him & his work mates cakes! The 1 thing he actually does for me, well he says, is to go out drinking with his cricket mates to give me the remote control for the night! By the way I’m his taxi! Lol”
Lizzie at Lizzie Somerset’s Blog –
“My hubby gets up with the kids & gives them brekky so I can shower on my own. I write down his priority list for his work day when he’s stressed as he has so much to do!”
Joanne Dewberry at Charlie Moos –
“My other half cooks me a child free meal once a week.”
Cass Bailey from The Diary of a Frugal Family –
“This is all lovely – my OH gets in to my side of the bed when it’s really cold to warm it up.”
Missie Lizzie from Me and My Shadow Blog –
“My OH rubs my feet while we watch telly :)”
Jen Walshaw from Mum in the Madhouse –
“I get a cup of tea in bed every morning”
Aby Moore from You Baby Me Mummy –
“My hubby cooks every night.”
Mary Key from Keynko has an interesting take on it all! –
“I don’t beat him to death with his own stinky socks on a weekly basis – lets him know I care! (sorry hormones are rife in this house can you tell?) He should consider himself lucky! I don’t make him sleep in the shed and I cook occasionally! Lucky shit!”
Polly from This Enchanted Pixie –
“Brings me a cup of tea on bed when he leaves for work in the morning :)”
Jackie Allum from Us Two Friends –
“Always gets my insulin injection and needle out for me every day. Oh and he buys me flowers every week.”
Finally, I think a few of us would like to be in the shoes of Cat Williams from Rock and Roll Pussycat –
It’s not really a little thing, but it’s bloody good! I get a diamond every year. He created the rule, so it’s his own silly fault, but I love it. He also ALWAYS knows when I’m feeling a bit rubbish and brings me a little chocolate bar home from work (or maybe he carries one round all the time just in case).
And what about me and Ross? Well we are getting better at remembering the little things we do for each other that we have started to take for granted. I get all the cars serviced and taken care of – he just doesn’t get motorised vehicles. I also spell out lovely words if we have alphabites with our food! I cook our family meals – and, his particular favourites, spaghetti bolognese and chicken curry.
Ross works hard at earning to support me and Grace. He puts toothpaste on my toothbrush every night, he tidies up the sheets and covers on our bed every evening so that they are comfortable, he usually gives me his last chocolate and, last Christmas, he bought me a brand new laptop because he knows how important it is for me to be online!
What has your significant other done for you lately?